There is no perfect plan for you

Haley summarizes the Churchian message about marriage:

It seems to me that Christian media sets just as high a bar a fantasy for Christian women as the mainstream media does, if not higher just due to the fact that a staunch Christian woman is far more likely to hold out for “God’s best.” I feel like we are constantly assured that God is going to give us his Best if we just have faith and wait for it. This especially includes marriage. Don’t settle for less than God’s Best. Do you want to have a good, God-honoring marriage? Then hold out for His Best. You’re 25? You have time. You’re 30? Keep praying for God’s Best. 35? Keep trusting God to bring you his Best. 40? God’s Best doesn’t have a timetable. 45? Nothing is impossible for God, who is writing your love story. God will bring his Best to you in his perfect timing. 50? Sometimes God’s Best doesn’t include a husband, but that doesn’t mean it’s not God’s Best for you.

Whether one calls it “God’s Best” or “God’s Perfect Plan”, it is readily apparent that one could just as easily, and accurately, express the same concept using the term in sha’ Allah. As evidence, I point to the fact that inshallah-dot-com is “Muslim marriage site, serious and respectful as imposed by our beautiful religion: find love, get married.”

What many Christians, especially those of the Churchian variety simply hate to admit is that God’s Will manifestly does not control every petty detail concerning every single person on Earth. This should be obvious from the way in which Jesus Christ taught his follower’s to pray: “thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven”.

Either there is no need to pray at all, which contradicts the entire point of Jesus telling his disciples how to do it, or God’s will is not presently being done on Earth. His will prevails in Heaven, as it does not on Earth, just as His kingdom reigns in Heaven, as it does not on Earth. This conclusion also has the benefit of being in accord with the evil we see around us and within us on a daily basis, rather than forcing the sort of intellectual gymnastics of the sort quoted above.

The Bible is not AC/DC. Christians do not pray for the coming of something that is already there. And while it may frighten people to know God doesn’t have a Perfect Plan for them, it shouldn’t. If God trusts you enough to provide you with free will and the ability to act on your own, shouldn’t you trust that He knows what He is doing and accept the responsibility for your own decisions and deeds?