Daddies, don’t let your daughters grow up…

…to date losers. Derb shares an email:

I have a friend, a very busy, worldly & successful guy, who is a great dispenser of advice, mostly good. His advice on raising a daughter: “Sure, education, orthodontistry, moral training, all that is good stuff. It’s secondary, though. You must concentrate above all else on this one great objective: DON’T LET HER MARRY A LOSER. Corollary: Don’t let her date any losers.”

I had a very sad reminder of this today. I learned that an acquaintance recently lost his daughter. She committed suicide at age 30. She was married to a hopeless ne’er-do-well, a drug addict. She was sure she could put him right.

“Don’t put your daughter on the stage, Mrs Worthington,” went the old song. I think my first friend is right: never mind the stage, or anything else, just keep her away from losers. And from the illusion—widespread among women, in my experience—that she can change a loser into a normal person by the power of love. Perhaps it can be done once in a while, but it’s not the way to bet. Not from what I’ve seen—and I’ve seen a few, and this is not the first one that ended tragically. May the poor girl rest in peace.

Teach them how to read. Tell them they’re pretty. Don’t buy them inappropriate clothing. Keep them off the pole and don’t let them date losers. You can’t control a child, you can’t control any human being, but you can certainly influence them by making your approval and disapproval clear and refusing to bankroll idiocy.

The idea that it’s impossible to reduce a girl’s interest in a loser and that any criticism will only drive her further into his arms is incorrect. Women, especially young women, can’t bear ridicule. Few girls will continue to harbor interest in a laughingstock who is openly regarded with contempt, they tend to value social status more than their brothers.


Because women are never guilty

It takes two tries, but America’s most famous post-natal abortionette gets off:

A jury found Andrea Yates not guilty by reason of insanity in the drowning deaths of her young children in the bathtub of their suburban home. Yates will be committed to a state mental hospital, with periodic hearings before a judge to determine whether she should be released. If convicted, she would have faced life in prison….

In Yates’ first murder trial, in 2002, the jury deliberated about four hours before finding her guilty. That conviction was overturned on appeal.

Even the most die-hard equalitarian feminist considers women to be quasi-children; this can be easily discerned by the societal distaste for holding them responsible for anything from military service to murder one.

Also, the medicalization of evil is a trend that has long troubled me. It bothered me when Saddam was declared crazy – he isn’t, he simply miscalculated – and this verdict, with its implication that a few counseling sessions and a prescription or two will set things right, bothers me too.


Licking her lips

She’s got definite plans:

“We’re going to sacrifice a lot of girls’ lives,” said Sen. Hillary Clinton, D-N.Y.

After performing a series of degrading and unspeakable acts on them, no doubt. Her husband’s activities in the Oval Office won’t hold a candle to what the Lizard Queen plans to do in there.

I just wonder if perhaps it wouldn’t be wiser for her to keep her bloodthirsty lesbian rituals under wraps until after the election.


Hard core homeschooling

Even an unemployed homeless man living in the woods can teach better than the professional educators at your children’s public school:

The man and girl told police they had lived in the park for four years. The pair appeared clean, well-fed and healthy, Barkley said, and the girl was well-spoken beyond her years. The man, who identified himself as Frank, told police he was a 53-year-old Marine Corps veteran and college graduate who served in Vietnam. He came to Oregon with his daughter, Ruth, from Tacoma with no job and virtually no money. Frank told police that the girl’s mother was institutionalized in New Hampshire, and the two now lived on a $400-a-month disability check.

Rather than live on the streets and expose Ruth to alcohol and drugs, Frank said, they hiked deep into Forest Park and built a lean-to. The pair went into the city twice a week to stop by the bank, attend church, buy groceries and clothes from Goodwill. Frank, a devout Christian, said he taught his daughter using the old encyclopedias.

Even though the child and father lived for such a long time disconnected from society, the girl had been home schooled and was in good physical shape. In fact, the girl received a very good education from her father while living among the trees. Officials said the girl, who would be normally in 7th grade, is at a 12th grade equivalency.

So, do you still think that you’re incapable of homeschooling? Or that teachers are underpaid?


The ante has been upped

Another ridiculously hot day, another day at the pool…. Having gotten a handle on the 3-meter board, I decided it was time to figure out what I was doing wrong on the one-meter board and why I was always hitting the water on my butt. Upon consultation with the kid who has been zen master to my grasshopper, I discovered that I was rotating too slowly, so speeding things up took care of the problem nicely and I went back to the 3-meter after a few successful splashes.

The problem, however, is that what is an ideal rotational speed off a one-meter board is somewhat excessive on the higher one, at least if you harbor a desire to enter the water feet-first. It must have looked like a cartoon or something, because I came flawlessly out of my tuck only to discover that there was way too much space to spare. So, thanks to my momentum, I continued to rotate and smacked into the water face-first. And yes, that will sting. Fortunately, there weren’t many people using the diving pool just then, but the lifeguard and the zen master got a pretty good laugh out of it. I have now learned that hearing “are you okay?” immediately upon surfacing is not a hallmark of the successful adventure in diving.

I did manage to get the rotational issue under control, finally, just in time to see that two of the younger guys had joined the party and were starting to do flips off the 5-meter platform. I was tempted to give it a try, but in the interest of maintaining structural integrity, I think I’ll make sure I can reliably control what part of my body hits the water first before giving it a whirl. I am not so determined to experience new sensations that I wish to discover what adding another two meters to that face-flop feels like.


The military myth

Persona falls for an old canard:

But lets get this straight. Try that hocus pocus matial arts crap in combat against seasoned veterans and REAL warriors, and brother, your just as dead as if you never walked into a dojo and waxed left and waxed right.

Yawn. I’ve heard that nonsense from several military vets, up to and including the Commandant of the USMC. In each case, I have convinced them to retract the statement after getting thrown, locked into an arm bar or trapped into a neck lock, in less than ten seconds every time. And it’s pretty obvious, after all, even Rangers and Marines spend mere weeks practicing that which martial artists spend years on.

Persona’s attitude is merely a variant of the warrior’s notion that martial virtue would suffice to overawe German machine guns in the trenches.

What’s particularly ridiculous about his statement is that the REAL warriors are perfectly aware of this gap in their training, which is why the Marines recently incorporated MCMAP into their training and Israeli military personnel developed Krav Magda. There isn’t a single deadly military technique that isn’t incorporated into some martial art somewhere.

Now, it’s true that not all martial arts are created alike. Tae Kwon Do and other kicking-centered disciplines are relatively useless against a hand fighter or a grappler. I’d much rather take on a kung fu or karate fighter than one trained in aikido or jujitsu. But the fact that so many special forces personnel gravitate towards the traditional martial arts demonstrates that no amount of military discipline, military experience, jumping out of airplanes or learning how to shoot an M-16 can ever substitute for the constant repetition required for mastering martial arts skills.

I do think that the one area that a veteran soldier is likely to have an advantage is what Joe Lewis called commitment. A good soldier will have learned to overcome that internal hesitation that slows most people’s actions down. Lewis even states that fighters don’t have it, I certainly don’t, but commitment alone is not enough to overcome significant deficits of skill, speed or power.


Mailvox: JT on a subject of absolute unimportance

JT emails:

For years corporate America imposed a glass ceiling (or restricted professional career path) on gyno-Americans because of a real or imaginary perception that gyno-Americans would choose child-rearing over duty, loyalty to child over loyalty to business.

The feminist movement argued that the male bigots (chauvanist pigs) in the boardroom projected these unreal ideas upon women with and without children and with and without husbands. They argued that if women were given a chance, they could prove the fallacy of the ideas.

Recently Perky Katie Couric made the illogical leap from mindless morning show hostess to netowrk news anchor. Even more recently she was told to proceed to the Middle East battlegrounds to report live and on scene. She refused. She said that it is dangerous and that she is a single mother.

Is her refusal to go a fulfillment of the glass ceiling mentality?

Where are the feminists and why aren’t they calling Perky Katie less than a woman?

I don’t have much of an opinion on this, because it involves one of the old TV channels, television news and Katie Couric. I have never seen the lady on television nor read anything she has written, I couldn’t care less about her and my only thought on the matter is that she will probably transform a previously male occupation by her inability to perform it adequately, in the ignoble tradition of female policemen, firemen and soldiers.

But based on JT’s email, there does appear to be a certain amount of irony there.


A flawed memory

My sensei has been working on a book laying out the principles of martial arts combat and I’ve been helping him with the editing. While we were talking yesterday, I remembered I wanted to get a clarification from him on something about our lineage that confused me. Now, keep in mind that my sensei is a big fan of the Way of the Intercepting Fist and the principles he’s developed were inspired, in part, by the blended style developed by Bruce Lee.

Vox: “I know you got your black belt at House of the Dragon, but what dan are you now? Third?”

Sensei: “Fifth. You were there, remember? I got it in the ring that fight night up in Duluth.”

Vox: “Oh yeah, when you fought that point fighter.”*

Sensei: (Laughs) “I put the tokes to him, didn’t I.”

Vox: “Yeah, that was a quick one. Anyhow, when did Terry get his black belt from Bruce Lee? I didn’t see his name on the list they’ve got on some Jeet Koon Do site.”

Sensei: “No, Eizo Shimabuku gave it to him, in Shorin-Ryu. In Okinawa.”

Vox: “So, what’s the connection with Jeet Koon Do?”

Sensei: (thoughtful pause) “He read the book.”

Okay, that may amuse no one but me, but it still makes me laugh.

*The guy was ranked 10th in the nation at the time, but after performing two full armadillos, he gave up after getting floored a third time. In the words our second sensei, “if you want to play tag, go play with the children”.


And the Savant’s head exploded

DJ Gallo on ESPN:

Have the Colts addressed their protection problems?

If by “their protection problems” you mean “their quarterback who always cracks under pressure in the playoffs and then shifts the blame to his teammates,” then, no, they haven’t addressed their protection problems.

The man is also very sound on Michael Vick, the bestest quarterback ever.


Here we go again

From National Review’s cover story:

In his recent book Can She Be Stopped? Hillary Clinton Will Be the Next President of the United States Unless . . ., John Podhoretz outlines a ten-point plan to prevent that scary prospect. Point number ten is “Nominate Rudy.” Podhoretz counsels that Republicans “not hold ideological purity more dear than partisan victory in the coming two years.” And he believes that victory-minded Republicans are heeding his advice. In a recent column in the New York Post, he noted that Giuliani and McCain both hold views at odds with their party’s base yet head every poll of GOP primary voters. He concluded, “Such people tend to be more involved in and better informed about politics than the average American, so it stands to reason that they have some knowledge of McCain’s and Giuliani’s positions. And so far it isn’t bothering them. Why? One word: leadership.”

How many of you fell for this in 2000 and 2004? How many of you are going to fall for it again?